In the game of romance, few things are black and white. Subtlety, insinuations and suggestions are at the heart of the chasing game.
You’ve already memorized the signs to see if she’s flirting, but a lot of men don’t understand the signs that she’s not interested. For one reason or another, many women will not come outright and tell a man that they are simply not into them. If, after reading this, you find these scenarios pertain to you, cut your losses and move on.
8. She invites people over:
In other words, there’s little to no chance she’ll be spending any alone time with you. This is your red card, so kindly excuse yourself.
7. She highlights how busy she is:
This is probably the most classic subtle sign of all: her life is just too hectic to emotionally invest herself in you.
6. She pays more attention to other men in a group setting:
In this scenario, she invites you back to her place at the end of the night and she spends more time talking to another guy. Not only is she willing to risk losing you to another girl, but she also doesn’t really care about appearing rude. Sure, she may run back to you when it’s time to sleep, but it’s clear that her heart isn’t in it, especially if she won’t even try to get close to you in bed.
5. She hasn’t come near you:
Whether it’s by conscious decision or not, if she hasn’t made any sort of physical contact with you, such as a brush on the arm or a pat on the thigh, she may have already counted you out of the race. It is said that women generally know within the first few minutes of meeting a man whether they’ll play the game with him. If there is no incidental contact, unless dancing in a public setting, the chemistry’s probably not there, she knows it, and she has put you in the FRIEND ZONE.
4. She talks about other men:
This can take many forms, so stay alert. She may say she has a lot of guy friends and does activities with them a woman would normally do with her boyfriend, like invite them to stay over or spend the day out together. This shows that she likes the company of men as friends, which is what she might very well label you.
3. She avoids intimate settings:
There’s a huge difference between a quiet dinner for two and inviting you to lunch with her and her friends. This might mean she doesn’t want you to get the impression that your friendship is leading anywhere, so take this advice for what it’s worth: it’s one of her signs she’s not interested.
2. She’s not talkative:
Dating guides will tell you the same thing: women love to talk, so let them. If, however, she limits her answers to ‘yes’ and ‘no,’ never bothering to elaborate, you have a flat liner. Likewise, if she doesn’t ask you questions, doesn’t attempt to extent the conversation, or appears inattentive while talking to you, she is showing no interest in what you have to say.
1. She avoids eye contact:
This is an obvious sign that many men overlook. If she is attracted to you, she will naturally want to be close to you and make eye contact. If she is evading your gaze, however, she may be consciously trying to avoid leading you on than having to turn you down later. It’s a sneaky little trick, but it usually works. Take it as a sign that you’re not her type.
I know from experience that an unreciprocated crush can be a big blow to one’s self-esteem. So do yourself a favor and don’t prolong the inevitable. If you’ve noticed she has exhibited more than three of these signs, listen carefully, because it’s never going to happen. Repeat this mantra to yourself until it sticks: She’s just not that into you.